Bozoma Saint John

And sometimes, yes, I will take one step. But why does it have to be so ordered all the time? And so the freedom in that, I think allows us then to be multiple things at one time. So that yes, you can be driven and in a dark place. You can be hurting and still laugh. You can be healing and still trying to figure out how to avoid the next hurt.

Like all of those things can be true at the same time and it doesn't have to mean that you're wrong or that you're doing it wrong. It's like there's no definition for how you're supposed to live your life. And I think that's also the other beautiful thing. The fact that no one has ever been where I am before, not a person on the planet.

Like all of those things can be true at the same time and it doesn't have to mean that you're wrong or that you're doing it wrong. It's like there's no definition for how you're supposed to live your life. And I think that's also the other beautiful thing. The fact that no one has ever been where I am before, not a person on the planet.

And so it's like, why would I subscribe to the steps somebody else thinks should be ordered for me? There's no plan like that.

And so it's like, why would I subscribe to the steps somebody else thinks should be ordered for me? There's no plan like that.

Yeah. So there's so much freedom in that.

Yeah. So there's so much freedom in that.

it's like you don't have to listen to anybody.

it's like you don't have to listen to anybody.

You know, and so it's like, yes, you can be hurt and trying to heal, maybe taking the steps to healing, you know, whether that's therapy or you're working on something that you feel like or taking a risk that you would have been fearful of before, but still, like, being driven about this thing or, like, being, you know, like, okay, I'm going to accomplish this even though I'm not 100%.

You know, and so it's like, yes, you can be hurt and trying to heal, maybe taking the steps to healing, you know, whether that's therapy or you're working on something that you feel like or taking a risk that you would have been fearful of before, but still, like, being driven about this thing or, like, being, you know, like, okay, I'm going to accomplish this even though I'm not 100%.

Like, that's the thing that always, like, I'm thinking about is that, like, Again, you don't have to have a full tank of gas to get to the other side of town. You know what I mean? Maybe you had a quarter tank and you know that it's going to take you like, you know, just up to that, like right at that quarter to get there. You know, it's like go anyway. Why does the tank have to be full?

Like, that's the thing that always, like, I'm thinking about is that, like, Again, you don't have to have a full tank of gas to get to the other side of town. You know what I mean? Maybe you had a quarter tank and you know that it's going to take you like, you know, just up to that, like right at that quarter to get there. You know, it's like go anyway. Why does the tank have to be full?

You know what I mean? So for me, I'm constantly thinking about that, that like I'm still in the process of healing. You know, that whole statement about like, time heals all wounds. That's some bull . Okay, it does not.

You know what I mean? So for me, I'm constantly thinking about that, that like I'm still in the process of healing. You know, that whole statement about like, time heals all wounds. That's some bull . Okay, it does not.

Yes. You just made me think of something because this idea of waiting to heal before you do the thing, that's the opposite of living the urgent life. Because if you're constantly waiting until you are or you're constantly waiting until that next thing happens or you get to the right spot, then you won't be fulfilled in your life.

Yes. You just made me think of something because this idea of waiting to heal before you do the thing, that's the opposite of living the urgent life. Because if you're constantly waiting until you are or you're constantly waiting until that next thing happens or you get to the right spot, then you won't be fulfilled in your life.

If I waited to be totally healed from the trauma of my husband dying, I would not have moved across the country. If I was waiting to be healed from the death of my first child, I would not be a mother today. All these things that we're waiting to accomplish or waiting to be fixed, before you can do the next thing. It's just, it's like a waste of time.

If I waited to be totally healed from the trauma of my husband dying, I would not have moved across the country. If I was waiting to be healed from the death of my first child, I would not be a mother today. All these things that we're waiting to accomplish or waiting to be fixed, before you can do the next thing. It's just, it's like a waste of time.

And there's no shame.