Brad Stulberg

And that might mean turning down a promotion.

If you don't want to manage a team of 100 people because you like doing creative work, well, then what's profiting?

Having that big manager role and making more money or being able to do the work that you love?

So a big part of groundedness is redefining or owning your own definition of success and is an extension in your language of profiting.

And this isn't stuff that is worth thinking about if your basic needs aren't met, right?

If you are experiencing homelessness or you're working two jobs at minimum wage, this isn't

isn't for you.

And it's unfortunate.

And like, there's got to be bigger structural change to help people in that experience.

But for many young, old professionals, even retired folks that do have that base level of security and are structurally sound, it sounds like such a cliche, but I often think striving sometimes in the wrong way gets in the way more than it helps.

So there's a few that immediately come to mind.

So these are like the key signs of heroic individualism.

One is you're exhausted, but you have no idea why and you're actually sleeping well.

Another is that you don't feel good when you're working all the time, but when you try to turn it off, you don't feel good either.

This is something that comes up for me when I'm writing.

I have a really hard time turning it off.

Another telltale sign is that you dread working.

You dread going on social media and posting, but you also dread not doing it.

So it's a feeling of stuckness.

Like I have to keep pushing, but I don't really want to push.