Brad Stulberg

I'm probably, to be honest, I'm like the happiest when I'm eating Skittles.

I love Skittles.

They taste great, but that's not, it's kind of like shitty flow.

Whereas when I'm most satisfied, it's when I'm coaching my son or my daughter's sports teams.

And my wife has my phone or it's in the glove compartment of the car because I don't even want that thing near me.

And I'm just so locked in on all these young kids who are at an age where it's just pure fun and skill development.

It's a blast.

It is when I am immersed in writing a book and I am outlining and editing and I'm just like deeply connected to the work project.

Or it's when I'm like on a date with my wife and we're just like immersed in conversation as adults away from our two young kids.

None of those experiences would I say I'm happy.

Like the emotion that I feel is not happiness.

You're not happy at a date out with your wife?

I'm satisfied.

Like I just feel satisfied.

I feel situated.

And I think that that to me is like a more enduring feeling because I think it's hard to be happy in one's life.

I think it's easier to be satisfied or situated.

And you can be satisfied and situated while also experiencing negative emotions like grief.

Grief can be a part of a satisfying life.

It's hard to be grieving and happy at the same time.