Brad Stulberg

but you also don't micromanage when things are going normally.

I love that word too, good enough.

It just like the ring of it, because I think there's so much perfectionism that especially us, our generation, millennials suffer from.

It must just be something in how we were like all raised by our parents, but there's such a big gap between like being bad, which is what so many people fear, and being good enough.

And when you can drop the weight of having to be perfect and having to make everything happen and just let yourself be good enough,

not only do you feel better, but you end up performing better because all these principles interrelate, right?

Good enough over and over and over again, that's consistency.

And when you're consistent, you're focused on the path.

So you're not caught up in heroic individualism.

And when you're focused on the path, you can play the long game.

And when you play the long game, you can win.

So it's like all these things that we're told are going to get us there, not only don't get us there, but they make us miserable.

Because I want to make it explicit.

Like what made you so successful, what allowed your team to grow was your ability to make things happen.

So it's like this thing that is your superpower suddenly becomes like your weakness.

That's what's so hard about it.

And it's really hard to let go of those traits that help us.

And I think that's just like a metaphor for life more broadly is that the more and more I do this kind of work and I write and think about these topics, the more that I think wisdom is like non-dual thinking, which means being able to say that this thing has worked really well and now it doesn't work anymore.

or if this thing works really well in this context and not in this context.

Because I think like real wisdom is using things until they work and then being able to let go when they stop working.