Brené Brown

I guess I would ask somebody, what is that thing that transcends

Difference, political difference, ideological difference, race, gender, you know, belief systems, class.

What is it that brings you to a common humanity place?

Like for me, it's God.

That's it.

It's a big challenge.

It's like I try to work from an ethos where I try to find God in the face of everybody that I meet, even if I want to punch you in the throat.

I try to like, that's my thing.

In some way, I'm connected to you, whether I like it or not, and whether I like you or not.

Because I don't think you can truly belong alone.

to anything or any group if you don't belong to yourself first.

True belonging requires us to be who we are, not to change who we are.

That's fitting in.

Fitting in is the greatest threat to belonging, which takes us both back to our childhoods, right?

Yeah.

Fit in, fit in, fit in, fit in.

The problem is that that chameleon kind of skillset

means that in order to fit in, the first person you betray is yourself.

We've got to be able to stand alone.

And that's what's happening right now in the world.