Brené Brown

You know, I have a question that I don't even know is answerable, but I do.

But if anyone could answer, it's probably you.

Or maybe we could call a phone a friend, maybe David Eagleman.

I don't know who we would call, but here's my question.

Shame served a biological, an evolutionary biological function, right?

You...

bring danger to the community, we shun and stigmatize you because you're bringing threats to the community and now we're going to get rid of you.

Over time,

As we've developed as humans, shame has become far too blunt of an instrument to use because the detrimental effects of it are so, it's so positively correlated with violence, addiction, aggression, suicidal ideation, these things that don't, you know, are really horrible markers for humans.

Is it possible today that

There is an old school coaching, parenting, leading philosophy that has become increasingly excruciating neurobiologically because we have developed amygdala-wise.

Do you understand what I'm asking?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Is the...

If you think about the adaptive origins of shame or the reasons why it existed in the first place, is it increasingly maladaptive given the way that we operate in the modern world?

No, I know.

Or is the use of it?

I think the use of it is increasingly maladaptive.

Yes, I think it's increasingly maladaptive for sure.