Brené Brown

The window of grief was just years of...

There was, you know, very early on, there was no calling her to say, oh, Charlie got a really cute date.

Let me show you the homecoming pictures.

Or, hey, Ellen, you know, got into her master's program.

That all just went away just every week.

And so...

That's why the whole Strong Ground book, there's a sentence in the first chapter that said, I have a sticky note on my window, on my mirror in the bathroom that says, I'd rather be the oldest woman in the gym than the youngest woman in assisted living.

Because I do believe in the connection around exercise, dementia.

And I took care of my grandmother with dementia with my mom.

And my mom and my grandmother made a lot of different lifestyle choices than I've made.

But the whole strong ground metaphor is that I went to go see a trainer.

And one day he looked at me and he said, he called me brown.

He said, find the ground brown.

And I looked down and I said, okay.

And he goes, not the floor, the ground.

Take your feet, push in to the ground.

Use your mind to connect with your body.

Push into the ground and then tell your mind you're going to be using fucking lats.

And I was like, okay.

So I did it and I felt them.