Brianna Gomez

If someone doesn't like me, it's not that bad.

If someone says something means me, it's really not that bad.

And therefore, in turn, you become more confident because you realize that other people's reactions or responses to you do not diminish your self-worth or value if you are sure of who you are and your confidence at your core.

My friend had a mentor who challenged her to just go and get rejected as many times as possible, like have a rejection goal.

I want to get rejected five times this week.

She went up to the coffee shop and she was like, oh, what are the chances that I get a free drink today, right?

And a lot of places they might say no, but you'll be surprised that if you actually say it with confidence,

they'll say yes and she was getting free drinks she was given stuff for free because she just asked so not only along the way will you strengthen your rejection therapy right but also you will learn that if you just ask for things and you're not afraid to ask or say them you'll be surprised how the world rewards you we

We have this deep internal chain reaction of doom that stems from caring too much about what people think.

If you care what people think, then you're hyper fixating on the outcome.

If you're wanting to control the outcome, you will never be happy and you will always be anxious.

And if you're always anxious, you're always going to feel awkward and tense.

And if you're always feeling awkward and tense, you will never feel confident.

And if you are not feeling confident, you will think that that's something that defines who you are and you'll let it hold you back throughout your entire life.

i do not want that for you and it's so easy to focus on what people think when you guys ask me how to deal with negative comments or people talking bad about you i need you to remember the main thing is that that says so much more about them than it does about you okay the person who is talking about someone else they have insecurity issues they are not happy they are not confident

the person who is able to hear things being said about them and not even question their own worth, that is true confidence.

And someone also asked me how to be confident consistently because I think that's such a real question.

We can get in phases where we feel really confident, we might feel really comfortable in our own skin one night and then the next day you feel super insecure again or super awkward again or super anxious again and that's such a real thing.

So I'm going to show you guys how to implement actionable, lasting tips that will cultivate long-lasting confidence and not just temporary short-term gratification confidence.

The number one thing you can do is implement little micro habits throughout your day that just remind you of who you are.