Brianna Gomez

that doesn't mean you have to fully straight up give it away.

I don't know if that was a silly example, but it works in my brain.

And so you might be asking, okay, we've heard enough, but how?

How is one supposed to create this love within themselves if I don't have it?

Like you might be saying like, Bri, I don't love myself.

I do feel like I need love from other people.

You have to be willing to date yourself.

You have to be willing to be your own best friend.

That same love and depth and affection that you crave so desperately from other people in your life, you have to figure out how you are going to give that and get that from yourself.

Whatever this love is that you're searching for in others,

search for it in yourself and whatever this love is that you keep trying to push out onto others because you think that's what makes you deserve it or earn it or prove yourself to them channel that back into you first and this isn't to say all your other relationships in your life are completely meaningless because you just have to focus on you and you're the only person in this world that matters but what i'm saying is you cannot pour from an empty cup

And if someone else is pouring into your cup, if it is cracked or damaged, they can pour all the love or reassurance or happiness into your cup.

But if it's cracked, if it is broken because you don't love yourself or because someone hurt you or some part of you that hasn't healed, it will seep through.

So whatever it is that makes you so thirsty for love, find that part inside of you.

and hug it and heal it and work hard to patch it back together it is not going to be easy it is not going to be instant i know after my toxic relationship at first i just wanted to kind of go crazy and just like go off and do whatever and party because i didn't want to have to face the truth that wow my worth for two years

was almost diminished because i stayed in a situation that i knew deep down was very very bad for me and i had to go easy on myself and say you know what it's not because i hated myself but it's because i loved someone else more than i love myself and i have always been a hopeless romantic you guys i will die on that hill i love love

But you have to know that there is a healthy amount and a healthy way to love.

And then there is obsession.

And then there is practically selling your soul away to some other person and to some other relationship.

And again, this isn't just romantic.