Brianna Gomez

I have to clear that out of your guys' mind.

You might be idolizing a friendship or validation from some external figure.

And you might not even know that you have some sort of obsession or attachment to it.

And so it's important to look at those and recognize.

So if I see, okay, in my toxic relationship, I found myself clinging on and staying even when it was hurting me.

And you have to be able to tell yourself, like, go back to that dark place for a second and ask yourself why.

And I can truly say it is because I love someone else more than I love myself.

And it's because I didn't know who I was, right?

Whatever I wanted, my well-being, my job, my career, it didn't matter if this person wasn't happy with me.

And I think that's really sad.

And so I need you to get out a pen and paper and to ask yourself, number one, why?

What will make me happy?

And we need to focus on that.

We live our lives so constantly based off of what will make others happy, what will give us validation, how we will be perceived.

And that is not the way to go if it's not what is making you happy.

And of course you're going to feel emptiness because if you're basing your whole life off of what someone else wants for you,

That is so empty.

That is so worthless.

And you won't know the next steps if you're following someone else's plan for your life.

Someone else who's just telling you what to do and what they need, that's no longer your life, that is theirs.