Brianna Gomez

So there won't be any issues down the road.

If you let someone walk into your life super easily and all of a sudden you're like, wait, why aren't you treating me like a princess?

They're going to be confused also, you know, because like this isn't what I signed up for.

So make it clear from the beginning what your intentions are, what your boundaries are, what you expect and how you expect to be treated with worth and with respect.

And I need to encourage you that there are people out there who want to put in the work.

There are equally as many guys who want the easy way out.

There are lazy men out there.

There are lazy people out there who will

think that they're just like super lucky they're just super lucky to get a beautiful girl who's intelligent and kind-hearted and they don't have to work at all

don't think any man has that privilege personally another thing i also wish that i could tell my younger self is that the chase is not it it is not fun so many people especially when you're first starting out they're into the games like this toxic hot and cold give a little take a little where it's like you think that it's fun you think that it's keeping things interesting like by

Playing those stupid games.

Like, oh, he didn't respond to me for two hours.

I'm not going to respond to him for two days.

Like all of these games, you could save yourself so much time, so much time and energy if you would just be real, like be an adult.

I think that it's so important when you are dating.

to just look at what you're doing and be like okay is this something that a girl with high self-worth would do and oftentimes when it comes to things like playing that hot and cold game and the chase no i think that when we are dating it is not our job to be the pursuer i think that there's a healthy amount of obviously like showing interest and still you know obviously relationships are a two-way street but at the same time this game it gets so toxic

And I think that it's important to note that hot and cold, the chase, is not normal nor healthy.

And even if you're in a relationship, that whole get in a fight, then make up the next day, the next minute, spare yourself.

I'm telling you, spare yourself.

Another thing that I wish I knew way sooner is to rid myself of that I can fix him mentality.