Brianna Gomez

You might think you could fix him.

If he can't fix himself, no one can.

No one can.

And I think it's so important to recognize that people will only change when they are ready.

It's completely on their own timeline.

So just because you are ready and you want them to grow does not mean that they will.

And just because you see their potential does not mean that they are going to fulfill it anytime soon.

do not date for potential yeah you might be like oh my gosh he is so lazy he's such a bum but i could really see him being super successful and such a good father one day like wait for that then if you really think they have high potential but they are holding you back right now wait for them to reach that potential and then you guys can be together if it's in the plan okay but

No.

I have been the I can fix him girl and you never end up fixing them, but you do end up damaging yourself.

it's not worth it it is not worth it you should not have to chip away at your own self-worth your own self-dignity your own self-love your own energy at what cost to make someone else better and stronger and then you walk away feeling more miserable and more drained than ever but they're thriving now like no guys it was so bad if you guys don't know your girlie was in a not great relationship it was so bad

And when I tell you, there were times I was paying for everything.

There were times I was doing his homework for him.

And I'm only saying this because I think that there will be some people who are like, oh shoot, like I'm in one of those.

Let me say this to you so clearly.

It is not your job to be someone's mother.

No.

No.

No one, no one's responsibility to fix someone or to heal someone else.

No, everyone is responsible for their own actions, their own accountability.