Brianna Gomez

They don't even hold back.

They don't even try to keep the secret.

It's just instantly tea.

Like anything that comes out of their mouth, they just want it to be gossipy.

They want it to be tea.

They want it to be drama.

Whether they end up talking about you or not, those friendships are so exhausting and you do not want to be friends with someone

whose entire lives and all of their relationships revolve around gossiping and keeping other people's names in their mouths.

That is just a waste of energy and you will never grow and you will never be better than the people you are talking about because you're the one who is wasting your time and your breath with their names in your mouth.

I remember being younger

And some friends would say like, oh, like friends just talk about each other.

That's just what they do.

It's not, it is not what they do.

And it's so interesting as I get older.

And I realized that like everything was so high school or middle school, the gossiping, keeping people's names in each other's mouths.

Like

It's not like that and it doesn't have to be like that and I feel like it's something that so many of us especially with Gossip tabloids and social media.

It feels like everyone's always talking about each other and people used to say that's me They used to say like all friends talk about each other That's just what friends do kind of like in terms when people say Oh all sisters fight it was almost put in those terms to me and now I realize that is not true and

And you do have the power to diffuse a situation.

If someone tries to talk about someone else, I know it might feel uncomfortable, especially if you've created this pattern and allowed this boundary to be crossed.