Brianna Gomez

I don't need any more.

You get it and you need more.

If you don't have it within yourself, you will search for it from other people, but you will never be fulfilled.

You will never be happy because it's not their job.

Frankly, whether this person is good to you or bad to you,

It is not their job to love you.

And something I always say, I'll bring this up in multiple episodes, is that you absolutely need, this is a non-negotiable, you need

to love yourself properly before you give love to others and before you receive love from others.

There will never be a healthy transaction between the two if you don't have love right here within you.

Because if you have it empty inside of you, it's like this void and you get a little bit of love or attention from other people and you constantly need more.

And you will never be reassured.

You will never feel fully loved if you don't have that wholeness inside your heart.

And so now, after my toxic relationship and now being in a healthy one, and after lots of work, I am at a place in my life where I know I hold my own worth.

Nothing anyone says or does or no love that anyone can give me can take away from that, can change from that.

And I know that even if every other relationship in my life, friendships, romantic relationships, family relationships, this is so horrible to mention, but you have to get to a place where you know that if all of those relationships left you, because they really can at the drop of a hat, if they decided to and if they wanted to, they could leave you tomorrow.

And number one, how terrifying is that to know that if you've tethered your worth to the mercy of someone else, they really can just drop it.

And then suddenly you feel worthless and empty inside and you don't know who you are without the love from this person.

So you have to get to a place where you know that they could all disappear tomorrow.

and you would be fine.

The sun would rise again.