Caitlin V

Whereas watching two people or five people have sex on a screen is like, it's a very separated from your experience, very disassociated experience.

That can happen or their performance anxiety becomes so extreme that it actually manifests in their body and then they end up coming to me.

So those are the men who come to work with me.

Primarily they have premature ejaculation.

erectile dysfunction or delayed ejaculation, or they feel like they have no connection in their relationship or they lack the confidence to go and look for a relationship.

Like they come to me because sex was part of their breakup or part of their divorce, and they want to make sure that like that part of their life feels

secure before they go out and looking for another partner.

The role that porn plays in that is that it sets the expectations so high that they no longer have a grasp of what their own sexuality looks like.

For men who have been trying to get to orgasm as quickly as possible and they're watching porn, so they're externalizing their turn on, and then they're also rushing their body through it.

And bodies are really good at patterns, right?

They're like really, really good at getting from point A to point B over and over and over again and figuring out the shortest way to get there.

And by the way, anything that has to do with mating or passing on your genetic material, your body is extra incentivized to develop patterns that allow you to get there faster and more efficiently.

And so the consequence of porn is often that you have this unrealistic expectation for yourself.

You've often trained your body.

And then on the other hand, so there's the premature ejaculation guys who are going fast.

But then there's another category of guys who watches porn for an extended period of time, like two to four hours, maybe even every single day.

I think this, a guy asked me this one time live and I was like, wait, let's just do some math together.

Because if you're doing this two hours a day.

That is a incredible amount of time to dedicate to anything.

Right, right.