Caitlin V

Like you have, you were born essentially with a system where the flow is unobstructed.

And then the things that we pick up along the way, the things that our partners say to us, you know, digs, the pain that we experience, heartbreak, shame messages from our schools and our peers and our parents, like all of these things start to plug up the flow.

And the cool thing about what you can do as a couple, if you're willing to do it and you have to have two people that are willing to do it, is you can sort of highlight for each other where those blockages are.

And sometimes the blockages are too intense for you to just work together and you need to bring in a third person or professional.

But the cool thing is that what I have found in the couples that I've worked with is if there is a will, there is a way.

You can find a place where both people can experience what it is that they want.

sexually and beyond, but you have to be willing to put in that work and a lot of that work is communication.

A lot of that work is in the nature of communication.

It's definitely both.

Yeah, we don't have great models for communication.

Right.

And when I talk to clients, sometimes they have a level of resistance around even developing and like adhering to those models of communication because you can feel a little forced, a little too structural.

Maybe even like I've heard a client say, like, this is too corporate in nature.

I don't want to do that.

But the truth is that models and structures allow us to have great results.

And we know that from running a company.

We know that, right?

Like when we have a repeatable system, when we have a breakdown at my company, I know exactly how we're going to repair it.

I know exactly what we're going to do in the next meeting.

We're going to spend time on that one thing.