Caitlin V

I let resentment grow.

One of my coaches said to me, this line I'll never forget, resentment is the biggest boner killer.

It's really good.

You can buy it.

I have it on my merch.

That t-shirt's taken.

But I think you could also say, and I haven't made this t-shirt, resentment is the biggest lady boner killer too.

So we gotta clear up that stuff first.

And then we can go from like, where is it that we would like to go from here?

And I always tell people to make the distinction between fantasies that you want to stay as fantasies and fantasies that you wanna make into realities.

Because we all have some fantasies that are exciting and interesting to us, but they don't need to come into fruition.

We don't really want to have sex with a plumber, right?

We don't really want to have that experience, but it's nice to think about, it's exciting to think about.

So those fantasies that you can bring forward that fall under that category, if you feel safe to share those with a partner and they feel safe to share with you, that's cool.

Maybe there are ways that you can role play and have an experience of that.

then there are those fantasies that you would like to see happen.

Maybe it's as straightforward as having sex outside of the bedroom.

Maybe it is bringing a mirror or a toy or restraints into bed.

It could be just experimenting with a prop or something that you haven't allowed yourself to experiment with.

On a more extreme end, it might be like going to a sex club or even having a threesome.