Caitlin V

But these are very, very, very common things that people name that they do want to experience, they want to work with a partner to experience.

It is a skill that we can all develop to be able to hear a partner's desires and fantasies and not make them about us or about us lacking anything.

If a partner comes to you and they're like, I wanna have a threesome, and your initial response is like, what am I not giving you that you need?

Understandable response, but probably get that it's actually not about you.

You can't give them two bodies at once.

You can't.

If you could, you would, right?

People who see group sex?

Well, you could say the same about monogamy too.

Sure.

Over a long enough timeline, very few monogamous relationships work.

Well, I think we had to make some distinctions here, too, because there is like the couple that occasionally has a threesome with someone who they met online while they're on vacation.

Right.

And then they go home and they don't.

That's just a fun thing that they like sometimes fantasize about.

They don't remain in contact with that person.

There is a pretty big gap between them and someone who like is in a throuple and has a ongoing intimate emotional relationship with another person.

And lives in a spare bedroom.

Yeah.

Yeah, exactly.