Caitlin V

There's so much range.

And then we also have to, you know, there's, there's, there's sexual exclusivity and then there's romantic exclusivity.

And these are things that I've played around with a lot in my personal life.

And where I eventually landed is like, I prefer romantic and emotional exclusivity.

I want to be one partner with one partner.

Part of that is because I really value my time and I don't want to spend a

talking about feelings with a bunch of people, it seems to, it gets exponentially larger the more people that you involve, the more conversation and time goes into the relationship.

When I was younger, in my early 20s, like that sounded fun and I enjoyed doing it.

Today, it's not how I want to spend my time.

I prefer just like the simplicity of having one person knowing that I am their person and that they are mine.

It feels a lot easier.

In terms of sexual exclusivity, though, I've been bisexual, I've identified as bisexual since I was a teenager.

Actually, it was my dad who told me that I was bisexual.

Before I even clocked it in myself, I kept wanting to rent movies with lesbian and bisexual leads.

And my dad was like, you know, I'm onto you, right?

And I was like, what do you mean?

And he was like, are you not seeing this?

Are you not seeing this in you?

Yeah, right.

But my desire to approach women, by the way, my comfort approaching women, to go back to how scary it can be to approach the same sex, opposite sex, has waxed and waned over time.