Captain Brad Geary
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303 appearances
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first heard Feb 2025
last heard Feb 2025
Captain Brad Geary’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Like all this other stuff we're dealing with and now this, like enough, please, like take this from me. I can't do this. I cannot do this. I don't have the strength. I don't have the knowledge. I don't have the wisdom as a dad. I can't do this. Like, please, please, enough. And he answered that. We started getting answers. Got him on a path to healing.
But the best part, the best part, I walk in afterward after I collected myself. He's already in bed. Amy took care of that, gets him in bed. And I walk in and... And I knelt down and I said, dude, dad's sorry. Please forgive me. Because you were right. I broke my promise without skipping a beat. It's okay, dad. I love you. I'm like, no, it's not okay. But I appreciate that.
I mean, the beauty of a kid, right? I think this is why Jesus says, like, The kingdom of heaven is meant for these, and we should have childlike faith. This idea, this total idea that he's so quick to forgive, so quick to love, when it's not okay, when I did fail. It was a huge lesson for me to learn through this process as well.
It's just, I am not capable as a man to deal with these kinds of things. The third and final one. As we were fighting all this, putting together documents with Jason, Just, I mean, I'm talking, we put three separate documents together that were like master's level theses and just evidence upon evidence, irrefutable. And I was so convinced that reason would prevail.
And as I submitted these, the Navy and NSW would be like, ah, here's all the evidence in the world. You did it. You know, dropping all charges, total vindication, facts matter. Let's get back to work. I was really convinced that this was going to happen. And the morning I submitted them all or the day I submitted them all, it was like, yes, this huge weight off my shoulders.
So again, back to, I think, my self-worth and how I was defining that. That Friday morning, I get an email from our admiral who had said, hey, I've reviewed all the evidence. I've still decided that you meet the criteria to proceed with this board of inquiry. I still find reason to believe you were negligent and derelict in your duties. And that one crushed my soul more than anything else.
because back to my self-worth, I had let this become defined by what man thinks of me, what the teams think of me. And here we have an admiral who speaks on behalf of our community. Like it or not, he represents us all. And he's telling me I'm not worthy. And so when you've built 25 years of self-worth around that, and that's taken from you, It took me to some really, really dark places.
And I was driving by myself actually up to one of the foundations, the C4 Foundation up in the mountains near Julian. So I was on the road by myself just spiraling into some darkness. It's a hard thing as a man when your self-worth gets taken from you. And I reached out to a few friends. You were one of them. You answered. Pulled me back out a little bit.
They say that in those darkest moments, you need about eight minutes of someone's time. And it helps you get out of it. And so I've encouraged people, hey, just in a text to somebody, say, I need eight minutes of your time. And they'll know, okay, this is serious. We need to talk. So you called me and another friend called me and helped pull me out. And it was like, okay, okay. I don't know.
I can't explain that. I don't think it came from within me. I think it was something external. But it came in my most vulnerable place. And I worked through that with God over the weekend. And I was so ashamed of the dark places I had gone that it was hard for me to even tell Amy. I was so ashamed. And when I finally mustered the courage to, I'm crying. And she said, I know. She said, I felt it.
And I was worried. And I was praying. She said, I'm glad you got through that moment. I said, yeah, me too. Me too. And when I heard God say in that moment, he's like, why did you give man this authority over you? it's yours to give and take. You don't have to care what this person thinks about you. You don't have to care what this community thinks about you. You gave that to them.
You can take that right back. And what I heard him say in my mind was, give it to me. I define your worth. I value you. You are worthy because I made you worthy. I love you. I have chosen you. I have claimed you. I bought you with a price. See yourself through my eyes."
And I realized, oh man, I had to get to that dark moment to even see the chains that I had forged around me to define my self-worth by what man thinks of me. I didn't even know they existed. I had no idea they were there. And they were the strongest things I had to break over this whole three-year journey.
And so it was only until that moment when I could give that self-worth back to God that I was able to shadow those chains. And it was then that I was truly free to actually start making the decisions that landed us in your studio last time.
Because if I no longer care what man thinks of me, well, man offers me the world and man uses the world as leverage to influence my decisions and shape what they want me and don't want me to do. If I no longer care about what man thinks of me, well, now I'm free to make these decisions based upon what I believe in, truth, principles. You wrote the other day on social media.
We talked about it earlier. I'll mess it up, but paraphrase. I think you said something to the effect of, nobody ever regrets standing up for truth. They only regret the moments they didn't. Yeah. But you're not free to do it until you don't care what man thinks of you. Because they'll use the world as leverage.
So I say all that because I know that there's people out there that have been going through the same things we went through, and they need to hear that It happened to all of us, and it's okay, and there's hope. And we need to fix these processes that put people through this because it is unjust, and it is disproportionate to anything they might have done wrong, I do believe.
I think that's why you called is you knew you've seen this before. And I've since had friends go through this stuff and I call them like, hey man, how are you today? How are you right now? Not good, bro. I understand. Keep your head up. Stay in the fight. This too shall pass. I tell them all now, like, I had a guy call me the other day. He's like, I love how you guys dealt with this.
You know, I'm going through something similar. How do I deal with it? I'm like, bro, get in the Bible. I mean, get in there. There's refuge. I love John Piper. He's one of our modern day theologians. But he said, cry out to God, then ransack the Bible for his appointed promise. We are fragile. He is not.
And I found such strength in that submission to him and just like, yes, okay, Lord, take this from me. I know you're doing something. I don't understand it, but I know you're doing something and you are good. So I'm gonna choose to trust you. I'm gonna choose to carry on. I'm gonna choose to remain steadfast and we're gonna get up one more day and we're gonna keep fighting this fight.
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