Carina Pacheco
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41 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Aug 2026
last heard 28 Aug
Carina Pacheco’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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What started as a silly fad to commiserate or bond over little quirks has quickly devolved into a compulsive need to overshare and over-validate every experience, characteristic, or predilection.
Especially unconventional ones, and especially those tied to personal insecurity.
My generation, the Zoomers, has long been inundated with demands to normalize everything, from buying coffee every day to skipping class and now as adults work for mental health reasons, and then cutting someone off at the first sight of difficulty.
Take dating, for example.
When a friend tells you about a bad first date, rarely do you encourage them to consider whether they are really incompatible with the other person or whether they have room to improve their dating etiquette.
Instead, you affirm the face-saving conclusion that the other person was a jerk.
Never that your friend may have talked with their mouthful or forgotten to ask a single question, and therefore they should never see them again.
At the first sign of discomfort or conflict, normalizing reactions by declaring them self care allows a person to justify almost any action, immediately disengage, and refuse to accept any personal accountability.
I shudder to think of the mud that so many good, necessary emotions have been dragged through to get to the altar of normalization, chief among them shame and embarrassment.
They are, as Rosenfeld says, essential ingredients to a functioning society.
They form the bedrock of shared norms and values that keep our society functional.
Varying degrees of risk taking and independent decision making and failure are essential to establishing character and creating the foundation of self-trust and resilience that everyone needs to truly grow.
Because who went at the end of the movie or in real life?
Not the conformist.
The hero can't grow into his or her role without taking risks and learning hard lessons.
Shame, embarrassment, humiliation, and stigma are all deeply entrenched in the human experience.
But more importantly, they're inevitable.
We've all had some not so pleasant experiences with these feelings.
I know I have.
But we don't have a God given right to feel comfortable all the time.
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