Cate
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3,159 appearances
15 recordings
2 series
first heard Feb 2025
last heard 25 Mar
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It was a thing then.
But it was a conversation you and I were having. And you asked me, like, did you ever have any fears that I would leave you if you were to make a different decision or anything? And so I started talking about all of my fears.
And one of my fears at that young age was like, yes, I had a fear that if I was going to parent that child and take that baby home, that we would not last forever and that we would break up eventually as a couple.
My thing is, though, is... when I was a child making this decision for my child, I was looking at statistics and people around me and all of the people around me that had babies at a young age. None of those people were with the other person. Like look at even just in general, statistically people that have teen pregnancies, the couples do not last. They break up.
It's very, very rare that people will stay together after having a child at a young age.
Yes.
So to say if that was one of my fears, absolutely, that I would mean you would end up not working out and we would have to co-parent this child. And yes, that was a fear of mine. I didn't want my child to come into like a broken home or end up being in a broken home because you and I both experienced that, too. But I think people, yeah, they do twist it.
And I know that you wouldn't have. Would we have deteriorated over the months or years? I think so.
go through this adoption uh me and my girlfriend are you know like it's a huge yeah so everyone hated on us yeah i think you're right i think we wouldn't have been able to just emotionally and mentally grow from all of just not even the adoption trauma but just our whole childhood yeah i mean we had a lot to go through but i think the thing that makes me angry like two things i would say that make me like upset the most is that when people turn around and say oh you
you know, you chose Ty, Ty forced you to do this adoption and his mom did. For one, I feel like you're stripping me of the sadness and the hurt and the strength that it took for me to hand over my child that I so desperately wanted to parent. I would never be that weak of a woman to choose a man over any of my children.
Even to this day, if something were to happen, I would be choosing my children. You know what I mean? Yeah. um and the other one is is that do people not think that you wanted this child i mean honestly
certain things but you're you're carrying this baby i have no control over this right or you could so i mean but that's what mine that's what mine like blows my mind is to people for people first of all to think that i would choose a man over my child but then again for them to just think that you have no emotions or sadness or sorrow or any want or that i would give you some ultimatum that's insane
That's sick. That is so disturbing. And then for me to continue to stay with you over all these years and have other girls, daughters, and I always say, if you guys really were to think that I'm that type of person, that's disgusting because I teach my girls completely opposite. You know what I mean? And they know that.
Like, I would never stay in a relationship and let my girls think that that would be a normal, healthy thing.
And now I've gotten to a point where I know my last time addressing it. If you think that I am weak, I guess, and I guess believe whatever you want. Yeah. But, um, I was telling one of my friends the other day about this situation and I said, Eventually, it just gets to the point where I can say the truth and you can either believe it or not. I sleep good at night. I know my morals and my values.
I know the person that I love and I care about. That's all that matters to me. I'm sick of addressing it constantly. I'm just kind of like, this is my last time addressing it. I'm not a weak woman. Tyler wanted this baby just as much as I did. We both leaned on each other so much. through all of those emotions and the sorrow and the back and forth of planning, making an adoption plan.
And I think to, to go back to like what you said to, or what we were, we were saying about how MTV didn't document that time when we flip-flopped. And so, yeah, like I called Tyler and I was just like, And it was getting close to her delivery. So we were getting really anxious. And I was like, I don't think I can do this. I can't do this. I want to parent her.
And he was on the phone and he was just like, okay, if that's what you want to do, we will do it. Are you sure that's what you want to do?
And I was just like, I want to do it. And, you know, also what was not shown was... You know, there was, so it was a few weeks where I was like, okay, I'm going to parent this baby. This is what it's going to be. Yeah. And I was getting things and my, you know, my grandma was sending things to the house for the baby.
And, and then one day, uh, my mom and I got into an argument and she looked at me and she said, oh yeah, well, who's going to buy your daughter diapers when she needs them? And then off rip and a snap. I was like, oh hell no. Cause I watched my grandmother hold things over my mom's head my whole entire life.
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