Charlotte Cummings

I had really high expectations of myself, really didn't want to let other people down, was a real people pleaser in relationships and friendships.

And then that, of course, followed me into the workplace.

And I experienced a really profound burnout in my early 20s where I just absolutely crashed.

And I had to start to work on this.

Unfortunately, this was all at the same time doing training as a counsellor.

So I had a little bit of an advantage in that because you kind of have to

sort your own stuff out at the same time.

But for me, rejection, being able to let other people down, being able to make decisions that benefit me has been really important.

I've stayed in jobs too long.

I've accepted less pay than I should.

I've not taken opportunities because I haven't thought I was good enough to put myself out there for them.

And this is, you know, something that has held me back.

And my goal is to get faster at getting out of it.

So the aim of the game here is to notice the patterns, to notice how it shows up, but to be able to pull yourself out of the ways that you try and avoid the feeling.

So asking for the pay rise or talking about your value in a particular setting and working out whether you're actually aligned to that business or company or not.

Being able to have those honest conversations, being able to think about your relationships and friendships and whether they're working for you as well as you're working for them.

Being able to hold that reflective stance in our own lives is really important.

But I still have some things that show up from time to time for me around rejection.

I have to be really aware of it in my life because it does pop up from time to time, but I no longer need to structure my life around avoiding it.

Yeah.