Charlotte Cummings

And, you know, sometimes we're familiar with that phrase, it's like our Achilles heel.

You know, it's the thing that holds us back and the thing that we need to be aware of.

So I'm aware for myself that I will stay in things longer than I should because I don't want people to turn around and reject me.

And I think that I need to be doing things for other people for them to accept me when, you know, the people that love me the most accept me because I'm me, not because of the things that I'm doing for them.

And I think that, you know, for me, my reflection then is the moment I start to think, hmm, should I move on from this?

Or is this the right place for me anymore?

Or should I be doing this?

Actually, I've got a time lag in terms of how I operate.

So when I start to think that, I'm actually probably due to go.

And I think that, you know, this is one of those double-edged sword scenarios where it is really precious to people and they often think, I don't want to give that up.

I don't want to give up that I'm a nice person that most people like.

Well, no, you don't have to give that up.

You just have to give up the parts of this.

that are causing you pain.

And most of the time people think there is, you know, something terrible is going to happen.

So for example, I might be working with someone around leaving a job and they think, you know, I'm just not going to be okay.

This is going to feel awful.

And then they resign and they're like, oh, actually, surprise, surprise, I feel really free.

Journaling is really good for that.

Like I'm so not a journaling person.