Charlotte Cummings

It feels really familiar to us.

We know this way of being in the world, so it is quite challenging to give up.

You're in the market.

Well, there'll be something going on somewhere in there, I suspect.

And it is so tough, especially for adult women to do this friendship thing.

And I find so many people talk to me about this, men and women actually.

I think though that the thing is we forget that other people are often looking for a friend too.

And people have the same vulnerabilities.

We're all humans.

We all worry about whether we will be accepted or feel good enough.

Like that is pretty fundamental to us as humans.

And it's one of the best things about our humanity is our ability to build those relationships and to find acceptance with one another.

So I think go for it.

I think step one is start writing down your reflections from today's conversation.

What has stood out from this chat that you might want to reflect on?

What are the things that you're noticing in your thinking?

And what are the areas of your life that you're not happy with at the moment?

Where is it that you're not doing the things that you need to be doing for yourself?

So not looking after yourself, not putting yourself forward for things, not prioritizing, socializing, whatever it is.

that needs to be further forward in your life, wherever the areas of unhappiness are, wherever the work-ons are, start reflecting on what's holding you back in those spaces.