Charlotte Cummings

And it is such an easy, powerful concept to be able to pick up something that helps you make sense of why you're doing things you don't want to do.

This is kind of frustrating as an adult, right?

To be going, hang on a minute.

I'm like, I'm subconsciously programmed by some things that I keep bumping into and that keep getting in my way in life.

It is often...

quite heartbreaking for people when they realize the extent to which they've been controlled or limited and it has a compounding effect in your life.

So often by the time people get past the early years stage with kids or into their careers, they're starting to see some of these limits show up because they're the ceilings that we place on ourselves.

They're the things that are blocking us from our own progress and controlling us.

And actually,

Our lives are really precious.

We want to be able to live the best lives that we possibly can.

And so part of that is being able to be without those limits, without those things that are dictating who we are and how we are and the choices that we can make.

Think about somebody who has an unbearable feeling of being out of control.

They don't like to feel out of control.

They want to stay in environments where they do feel in control.

So perhaps they find their way into some kind of leadership position because they're good at control.

They're good at holding things together, at predicting what could go wrong, at kind of holding the fort within a business.

But perhaps what they need for their next step is to move outside of the sphere that they're in.

But they have to feel out of control in order to do that.

They have to put themselves out there.