Charlotte Cummings

They have to let people know that they're looking for another opportunity.

Or they have to apply for things where they're not the one deciding whether they get it or not.

They have to go into an environment potentially where they're not the big fish anymore, where they're under somebody else, where they're unfamiliar with the area of work.

Like, you know what?

it feels like to start a new job and you're flooded with all this emotion around, I don't even know what I'm meant to be doing here and this does feel out of control.

Well, unless you can let yourself feel that feeling, you can't do the things.

So you'll prefer to stay within your comfort zone wherever your unbearable feeling is showing up.

Out of control is probably one of the top ones because it is a bit of a bumpy ride at times and it's a long game that you have to stay in for most investments.

but things like an unbearable feeling of failure or of futility.

So futility is a really interesting unbearable feeling because it's about waste of some kind, wasting your time, wasting your money.

So very frugal people often have an unbearable feeling around futility and waste.

but that can show up in all sorts of different spaces of their life.

So they don't want to waste whatever it is that they've got in front of them.

They would rather something not go well and never take a hit than risk doing something that might place them in a position where they feel this feeling.

out of control as a top one for the chronic savers, like who have to have a buffer.

And I lived like this to some extent, but for slightly different reasons where I was like, you know, thou shalt have this magical sum of money at all times and never drop below that.

Even when there was something that was like a really great opportunity or, you know, decision that I probably should have made.

You're saving for something.

It is just supposed to be used just consciously.

Yes, and so that little bit of time where you're tolerating things, you know, moving below your own kind of line of comfort is a really tricky one.