Chelsea Fagan

He's this, that and the other.

But sometimes it's just that he's not really that good with money or maybe he gets fired from his job or maybe any number of things happen.

Um, so I say all of that to say, I personally, myself would not be comfortable with 100% of my financial future being in the hands of a man, any man, you may feel differently, but the reality is you've taken when you agree to do that.

And especially when you don't protect yourself.

Additionally, you have just taken an enormous gamble on this one person.

And quite frankly, I just don't think most men have the range.

I recently read a memoir about a woman who went into her marriage with multiple trust funds and ended up completely at this man's mercy when he cheated on her because she essentially signed everything away to him in the name of love.

She allowed him to completely redo her prenup five days before the wedding.

She openly admits that she went that entire marriage without ever looking at one statement and that she gave him every single month, a total breakdown of her spending when she was the one who went into this.

It's listen, I, and we, we don't cover a ton of these, but like every year to every year, there's at least a few of these memoirs of women in the

these really, really rough divorces where they feel completely blindsided.

How did I end up here?

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And I just have to say, at a certain point, women either have agency or we don't.

We are either fully equal, independent human beings, adults responsible for our own lives and choices, or we're not.

And I do think, I don't want to discount

very real instances of abuse and coercion and things that there are many situations where women are

you know, being held essentially hostage in relationships.

There are also many situations where women, where there's just not enough money to even survive as a household, let alone to break it into two households.

People stay married in bad situations because they can't afford to get divorced.