Chloe Hadjimatheou

By this time, we're talking on the phone almost every day. What it took me a while to realise is that Gareth records every single call he makes. He's pretty paranoid and so he wants a meticulous record of what everyone said to him. I don't know if he's always been like that, but I suspect it's the result of all the gaslighting he feels he's been through.

When he eventually confesses to me that he's been recording all our calls, he thinks I'll be upset. But I'm making a podcast, so I'm actually pretty delighted. And I make him send me all the files. This particular day, I've called him to ask about that awful fight.

When he eventually confesses to me that he's been recording all our calls, he thinks I'll be upset. But I'm making a podcast, so I'm actually pretty delighted. And I make him send me all the files. This particular day, I've called him to ask about that awful fight.

I've got in my notes that he spoke to you about Bowen.

I've got in my notes that he spoke to you about Bowen.

And he was quite badly hurt?

And he was quite badly hurt?

And like, what, you really hurt him?

And like, what, you really hurt him?

Oh, fucking hell.

Oh, fucking hell.

Gareth ist out of control. Still, he says the school never tries to find out what's going on with him. None of the teachers ever mention Miss Bowen to him again. Just before Christmas, the school calls his parents in to say if they don't remove Gareth voluntarily, then the school will expel him. They quietly got rid of Miss Bowen. Now they've quietly got rid of her alleged victim too.

Gareth ist out of control. Still, he says the school never tries to find out what's going on with him. None of the teachers ever mention Miss Bowen to him again. Just before Christmas, the school calls his parents in to say if they don't remove Gareth voluntarily, then the school will expel him. They quietly got rid of Miss Bowen. Now they've quietly got rid of her alleged victim too.

Der Gareth, den ich in den letzten Jahren kennengelernt habe, ist ein sehr bemerkenswert und intelligenter Mann. Aber er ist auch jemand mit Angst und Paranoia. Ich kann das sehen. Aber was ich mich nicht zuerst auf den Finger legen konnte, war, wie genau seine Beziehung zu einer älteren Frau die Probleme, die er heute hat, geleitet hat.

Der Gareth, den ich in den letzten Jahren kennengelernt habe, ist ein sehr bemerkenswert und intelligenter Mann. Aber er ist auch jemand mit Angst und Paranoia. Ich kann das sehen. Aber was ich mich nicht zuerst auf den Finger legen konnte, war, wie genau seine Beziehung zu einer älteren Frau die Probleme, die er heute hat, geleitet hat.

Miss Bowen normalised her desires before Gareth could even begin to explore and understand his own. And he says some of her desires were quite kinky. But Gareth wouldn't have known that. He had nothing to compare it to. So then, when it came to girls his own age, his expectations would often be frightening for them.

Miss Bowen normalised her desires before Gareth could even begin to explore and understand his own. And he says some of her desires were quite kinky. But Gareth wouldn't have known that. He had nothing to compare it to. So then, when it came to girls his own age, his expectations would often be frightening for them.

By the time he's 16, Gareth's relationship with his mum has broken down completely. All the lies have poisoned things between them and she asks him to leave home. At this point, Gareth's in a really bad way.

By the time he's 16, Gareth's relationship with his mum has broken down completely. All the lies have poisoned things between them and she asks him to leave home. At this point, Gareth's in a really bad way.

I've spoken to a lawyer. He and his firm have represented thousands of sexual abuse survivors in legal cases against all sorts of institutions. He's even worked with victims of Jimmy Savile. And he tells me the average age for his clients to come forward, particularly male clients, is between 35 and 50 years old.