Chris Duffy
speaker
7,610 appearances
65 recordings
9 series
first heard Jul 2023
last heard 4d ago
Chris Duffy’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
Trend
recordings per month · last 12 monthsRecordings per month over the last 12 months — 58 in all, peaking in Jun 2026 with 15.
Appearances
But also you as a person are open to being part of community.
You're open to like letting people know you and spend time with you and, you know, have meals together or take walks or do the things that let you get closer and and more intimate with each other.
So
I I'm curious about that part of it too, like the the mechanics of how you've let yourself have community and not be isolated.
Because certainly you know, being trans gives you an in, but you still are you still are doing things actively to make that happen.
But I feel like there's something that i is a thread between like grief and mental health and sobriety and transness and and all of the things that we're talking about, which is um having to sometimes in a in a way that is, you know, challenging or or against your will, having to get used to like cutting past the bullshit and just saying like this is who I am.
This is who I am, and I'm not going to be ashamed of it, and I'm not going to try and lie or hide it.
And I often have heard from trans friends that, like, just being like, This is who I am, it allows them to have this huge weight lifted and this joy and a new sense of life.
Um, like sometimes trans friends talk about like going through like a second puberty, not just because of hormonal, but because of like finding who you are.
Um, in all of those, though, there's this idea.
idea of like you have to get rid of the shame that forces you to like pile um lies and deflections on top of lies and deflections so that there's all this weight of things you have to maintain versus just saying the thing that you actually feel.
There's this line that I thought I I know I'm gonna think about from the book a lot, which comes from the writer, um, Leah Lakshmi Piepsna Samara Sinha, which is care is not automatically a burden and it is not automatically beautiful.
Yes.
That when we get into the idea of thinking that caring for someone has to be one of those two things, it can it can trap us into feeling like this is where the boundary has to be rather than what our boundary actually works for us.
Totally.
I don't know.
You know, related to boundaries, I think, is is inheritance, right?
Because it's like, what are our responsibilities, but also what do we get from the people we come from?
So what advice would you have for people who are wrestling with what you get from previous generations?
Well, Emerson Wendy, thank you so much for being on the show.
Showing 441–460 of 7,610 · page 23 of 381
← Previous
Next →