Chris Duffy

You know, Bell Hooks has many books on love, but one is specifically about men and love.

And you said that many of your clients are professional women who date men.

I know that in my personal experience, I am a straight man.

And I think that sometimes...

it can be harder to communicate about love, to understand like access to all of these emotions because of all the social pressures around what is permitted within masculinity.

And just in my own personal life, when I think about like single people I know, I know so many unbelievably talented, smart, beautiful single women who I would like recommend to anyone.

And then I have single male friends who are weapons I would not inflict on an enemy.

And I think that I'm not the only one who has that relationship where it's like, do you know anyone you could introduce me to?

And I'm like, I do, but you do not want that.

That's what I was going to ask.

What do you do?

What do you do?

Those values that you were saying, those are the foundation of true love.

But some of these you can build over time.

But some of them kind of need to be there from the start.

So like certainly physical safety needs to be there from the start.

Which of the other ones grow with time and which ones are like they have to just be there from day one because if they're not there, this is clear we have to leave.

This isn't the right person.

I think also if I can just

give advice based on your book too.