Chris Musser

on my couch on my phone, and it literally takes me 90 seconds.

But folks, this has been a total game changer for me.

My therapists have told me, I have multiple therapists simultaneously, which here is not best practice, but here's what they agree on, which is that I have a lot of cognitive distortions.

So, you know, these things, right?

Some of you have them and you're like, yeah, I got some of those too.

So these are things like all or nothing thinking, catastrophizing, overgeneralizing, right?

Like when you pop up the news and you discover the sky is falling.

So for me, I had this, I was prepping for this TED Talk a month ago and I was already in pretty good shape, I thought.

And so I sent a recording of myself to some mentors and I said, you know, love some feedback.

You know, I was asking for like positive feedback.

But then two of them responded pretty quickly and they said, Chris, thanks.

Maybe we should talk.

Yeah.

And so we talked and both of them told me, I kid you not, without consulting with each other, the talk was fine, but it was a little bit dramatic and at the same time, somehow a little bit flat.

which if you're like me, that sent me spiraling.

So what I did, I kid you not, I went into a dark room in the office right after my calls, and I pulled out my phone, and I journaled about all the ways in which I am defective across dimensions of life.

So yeah, public speaker, obviously bad.

But what about at work?

Not good enough.

Husband?