Chris Williamson

That's the only way you're really going to slow things down is if I choose my timing in this conversation and not let somebody else press their timing on me.

Like in the home, for example, if we wait to have a conversation when the kids are in the bath and we're trying to do dinner and everything is stressful and we've already had a tired day, my battery's already at 20%, chances are, not gonna go great in conversations, not gonna be that awesome.

But if we're able to slow things down and I'm able to pause,

and use my words to let them know a better time and be better, that's gonna do a lot better for me.

So what does that do in the process?

How do you do that?

Aside from using your breath in conversation, you need to say it out loud.

I can tell I'm getting defensive.

I'm gonna be better for this conversation here in a little bit.

I can tell I'm not saying things as well as I want to, and I don't wanna approach the conversation this way.

If you were, rather than trying to get defensive,

If you were able to say, listen, I can tell this moment is a big one and you're saying a lot of things that are really important.

I want to make sure that I take the time that gives my part what this deserves.

And that's going to take, that's going to take some time.

We're a team.

All the more.

Yeah.

Especially when, when it's conflict, because it's, it's, um, when you find that you're only

Nobody wants to be in it alone.

We know what it's like to be in a relationship with somebody where you're the only one in the boat paddling.