Chris Williamson

Timeouts are something that you can't really be overused in some sense.

If you find that things are really, really frustrating, they say, I think the data was like, you need to have 20 minutes to kind of regulate yourself again.

In other words, don't try and say, you know what, let's just, I need a moment.

And then it's not two minutes later and they're like, you know what?

And then you're right back at it.

Again, that's not near enough.

That's not near enough time.

You need more time with that.

So we got pausing, using your breath, giving time to elongate it.

So

Two, timeouts, and then three, set aside actual time for the conversations that matter.

We'll set aside time for me time to do what I want, go work out, go do whatever, but we won't set aside time for some of the most important conversations we're ever going to have.

And so if I were to say, even to you, I'd say, hey, I'd like to talk to you about something really important to me and I'll make sure that we have time for it.

One's a good window sometime next week.

Like, you see how much better that is than me going, hey, do you have five minutes for me to tell you about something?

Like, you know what I mean?

And that's what happens.

And it just, it comes right on you to where nobody is, nobody's prepared.

Yeah, and I think you should also put pen to paper.

A lot of the times these things sound good in our head until we actually say them and we realize that that didn't hit like I thought it would.