Chris Williamson

When you actually put pen to paper and write out what you want to talk about, why you want to talk about it, and when's the best time to bring it up, that gives a different sense of clarity as to, is this something I really need to say?

Does it need to be said right now?

And am I the one to say it?

And so when you're able to actually write down, what am I asking them to do?

What am I asking them to do for this information?

Am I just venting to vent or am I asking them to act or am I asking them to listen?

Next would be, what do I want to walk away from this conversation?

Why do I need this conversation?

Maybe that's all there is to it.

But if you actually take the time to write it down as part of whatever habit tracking you're doing, your conversation is going to go better than if you just kept it all in your head and then got upset that they didn't react the way that you thought they would.

Yeah.

And then it's just living in your head rent free, you know, then, then it's taken up all the space that you could be using towards something else.

But I mean, worries are good, but being able to get them out of your head, I'd say that's even better.

What does anger usually hide?

There's a quote that I heard once.

There's something along the lines of, I sat beside my good friend, anger, and he turned to me and said, my name is an anger.

It's grief.

And I think a lot of the times anger is hiding fear, it's hiding sadness, it's hiding grief, all these things that are really the true bottom of that emotion.

They say in therapy where it's hysterical, it's historical, meaning that it comes from something else.

And often our emotions, which are extremely complex, we use the most basic language a caveman would use.