Chris Williamson

I'm sad, I'm mad, I'm angry, I'm tired when there's a whole

emotional vocabulary to use that's out there of if you sift and you sift and you sift and you sift and you ask, where is this coming from?

You find that what comes across as anger and yelling and injustice usually comes from a deep place of sadness.

rarely if ever does getting angry at somebody lead to the changing their behavior.

I mean, the more, the harder you push, the more hardened they become.

The more you tell somebody they're wrong, the more convinced they are that they're right.

And it wasn't that long ago that we did like duels.

Like you disrespected my honor in some way.

if we're gonna go shoot it out.

And one of us may be standing one not.

And thankfully we don't do that anymore.

We have increased some emotional capacity there.

But I do think that, you know, anger is one that you find, especially in relationships, if you're really mad at your spouse or partner or whatever, if you just go a little bit deeper, it didn't take long for that anger just to turn into sadness.

That's why a lot of times yelling turns into tears.

Yeah, that too.

It works the same way with like shame, right?

It's usually shame is met with defiance and defensiveness and anger and unfairness when behind that is usually some type of self-loathing sadness.

underneath it.

I don't be able to see.

Yeah, exactly.