Chris Williamson

There's a difference between shame and regret.

And usually whenever you're getting in that cycle of, I can't show my emotion, that's the same reason why you hide what you hide.

It's the same reason you have the secrets you have because you couldn't imagine life with people knowing and knowing you have those emotions and feelings.

And I think, especially for guys,

We still feel the same things, but a lot of us have a problem with showing it.

We'd just rather go static or rather go stoic.

It's expressing it that's a whole lot harder.

that the other person doesn't want to be understood, where that's all there is to this person.

If you're on the receiving end of aggression, one, I think you need to lay some boundaries to make sure that you're not.

Assertiveness is good.

Aggressiveness says, I don't care about you.

Then that's not okay.

But I think that if you find that you're on the other side of aggression, you're dealing with several different levels of how you want to lay a boundary of how I want to be spoken to.

So we could talk about how do you respond to something like that.

If it's somebody who means something to you, then usually that's very telling.

Like we talked about a three, a conversation.

If somebody comes in at a seven, well, it's very telling.

That means they're having a conversation in their head that you weren't invited to.

And so it's rather than coming at it with, they have to agree with me.

It's this mindset of have something to learn, not something to prove.