Chris Williamson

And that line, love does not cancel out people's flaws.

In fact, it just makes you tolerate it for longer.

Which is what's deranging to a lot of people, that they get into a relationship with somebody who isn't right for them or isn't good for them, and the capacity of their love, the intensity of their love, just allows them to stay in something which isn't right for even longer.

Yeah.

And I think that people often feel guilty about having optimized for romantic chemistry when what they should have been optimizing for is...

is Tuesday evening with this person enjoyable.

Yeah, I was bored out of my mind.

Your first date with your now wife was, you met in a nightclub and within 30 minutes, we're talking about Russian literature.

Russian grammar.

Russian grammar.

That's it.

You know?

Yes.

I told you about this last time that my best piece of advice for sort of the intellectual bros or the intellectually inclined bros when they're single is to speed run sending weird psychology articles to the girls that you're talking to and to just see who comes back.

It's like an intellectual shit test.

Yes.

And you're not looking for the smart ones.

You're looking for the ones that engage.

Right.

Oh, that's cool.