Chris Williamson

That is a really, really interesting question from someone who's thought about it deeply.

And that's why I love you guys.

The question here, tall girl problem, socioeconomic success from women has made it difficult or more difficult for them to find a partner who is as socioeconomically successful as they are or more.

Women typically want to date a man who's as educated as they are or more and as financially successful as they are or more.

There is a third element here that's being proposed by KP, which is the emotional development.

If you've done a lot of self-work, here is another...

delta to another distance from you to the people that you're trying to date.

And I get the sense that this is actually one that could maybe be more destructive to relationships, especially over the long term.

So on the front end, when you meet someone, you might be more concerned with their education level and their current earning.

As you get into a relationship, that may, I think, become less and less relevant.

On the other side, I think someone's emotional intelligence up front, you're not being that emotional, right?

When you first meet somebody, you maybe get some senses here and there.

But as you get deeper into the relationship, if you've done a lot of self-work, if you've done a lot of therapy, if you've thought deeply about your emotions, you're trying to connect to your feelings, you're understanding your patterns, you're really trying to go there.

You're trying to hold your emotions.

You're trying to develop yourself.

If you and your partner have a big delta, I think that is...

going to create more friction and make you feel more alone in the relationship than them not having a master's when you've got a master's and they've just got an undergrad degree or something like that.

So I think this is almost certainly a contributing element.

I don't know whether the asymmetric growth is that women are doing more emotional work.

It obviously seems like you are, unsurprising, Modern Wisdom listener, obviously.