Christopher Moore

And so sometimes guilt can arise from us doing something that contravenes the norms or standards of our conscience.

And we may feel guilty about that.

And sometimes, you know, then the most important thing is to be able to recognize that perhaps you're holding yourself to too high a standard and, you know, cut yourself some slack and give yourself a break.

And, you know, to some extent we call that self-forgiveness.

Yeah.

You know, that's why guilt can go on even if you've been forgiven by other people.

Very much so.

I think that is the fundamental dynamic in human relationships.

Relationships are important to us, but that doesn't mean that we're not going to mess up.

We mess up quite frequently, even with the people that we love.

But if we apologize and do that honestly and are forgiven by the person that we love, then the guilt does tend to dissipate.

Well, what's that?

Well, I think that's just, you know, the relationships are a continual challenge, right?

There's always another opportunity for you to mess up.

And the problem is that you can't, if you keep messing up in the same way and, you know, continuing to apologize, it's not necessarily gonna work with the other person because a good apology requires a commitment

not to do it again.

And so if you do do it again, then in a sense that invalidates the apology and the forgiveness can be withdrawn.

Yeah, absolutely.

All relationships are a constant challenge.

They need constant monitoring.