Chuck Bryant

I mean, she's Catholic.

And after this religious experience, she was able to, which had a lot to do with self-love, but after this, she was able to still have these emotions that she had before, but managed it to the point where she wasn't practicing self-harm

And did she come up with the term radical acceptance, or did she just buy into that?

Okay, I don't think she came up with that.

But basically, radical acceptance is like, hey, listen, this is how things are with me.

This is how things are with the world.

I accept this, and I'm not going to compare this –

to what I think the reality should be or what other people think it should be.

Yeah, and it seems like it really works.

I saw that it was kind of the only proven treatment to reduce suicidal behavior, which is at the tail end of what a lot of people experience with BPD.

And the good news, and we'll talk about treatment later, but the good news is if you have BPD or know someone that does, you can get better.

And they have proven and shown time and time again now that

through the treatments that we'll discuss later, it is absolutely something that someone can get a hold of in most cases.

Which is great.

Yeah.

Yeah, and man, one thing I really took away from this, and this is something that, you know, Emily and I and most parents that I know are way into is, oh, you got to validate your kids.

Yeah, that's new, which is crazy, but it's... Yeah, you got to validate their emotions and validate their experiences and their feelings, even if it's something that you don't think is...

like has the most relevance or whatever, or even if like the kid is wrong about something, like emotionally wrong, like you still have to validate that and then talk them through it.

What you can't do is just discount a kid's feelings because that's like telling them that their truth isn't real, and that's damaging.

Yeah, what you got to do is, in my experience, is, like, you can't beat yourself up too much because parenting fails.