Chuck Bryant

And that if you forgive them but don't tell them or you still avoid them afterward where it's like, hey, I forgive you, but good luck with the rest of your life.

You're not in my life anymore.

That to some psychologists, not all,

Some psychologists say that's not genuine forgiveness.

That's akin to like what you were saying, which is letting go of anger and moving on, but not really actually forgiving.

I still say it's forgiving.

I'm not one of the psychologists.

Sure.

And it's very much debated for sure.

But then that also leads to another point too, that if you forgive somebody, it doesn't necessarily mean you forget.

Right.

And that's not part and parcel to it.

Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting.

You can forget, but...

I'm actually really good at that kind of thing where like I forgive because it just – unless it was a really huge wrong, it just kind of fades from my memory fairly easily and I don't dwell on it.

So it can go hand in hand.

But if you've been deeply wronged by somebody where you're actually going through the process of forgiving, which we'll talk about, and it is a – it's a deliberate –

step that you're taking toward finding peace with yourself in your life again, then you know very well what that wrong was and you're not going to forget it.

But eventually the aim is that you will have divorced the emotional attachment from that memory of that wrong.

to where it becomes akin to like a movie you saw once or a trip you took once.