Cinzia
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I guess my questions are, number one, how do I stop putting pressure on him without completely suppressing my own needs and desires?
Number two, how do I stop feeling embarrassed about already telling people I thought it was happening really soon?
I really love him and I truly believe he loves me too.
This doesn't feel like a breakup situation at all.
It feels more like two people who accidentally got emotionally out of sync around a huge life step.
I'd really love your thoughts because right now my heart feels very confused and very fragile.
And I think the problem is that these men, they don't want to have that conversation.
you move on yeah yeah i think that's the realization yes that's awful to come to in that situation like we're five years in i'm trying to what we're waiting for commitment out of you and i can't even talk to you about it like i've tried to sit you down many times but i'm gonna have to remove myself from the situation if you can't yeah because you're obviously not on the same page yeah but you're gonna drift what gonna drift for another couple of years i know no and they just want they just want to coast along the boyfriends
in the forefront of your mind cicely was booked yeah maybe a few of her friends had got engaged she's thinking oh my god i'm next and she just got so in her head yeah yeah yeah so she's got the reassurance that it's probably gonna happen he wants to get the verbal reassurance just gotta breathe and go with the flow and let him take the reins let him take control don't you want a man that can take the reins occasionally yeah you don't want to plan you want to be surprised yeah you don't want to know when it's coming yes yes okay next one baby
As if he's like the prize and like the most amazing thing that I should change my whole life for him when I'm 23.
It's like whatever he wants to do, you've got to support me, but I won't support you.
That's literally what he's saying.