Claire Crowe

Yeah, absolutely.

And I think parents get caught in what are the words I should say?

What are those perfect words?

And actually, that doesn't matter.

All that matters is that you have care and compassion and that you say it in a loving way.

So whatever way you say that someone has died, that is OK, because we are giving that model of I'm here with you.

I'm sharing that information with you and I care about your reaction.

And of course, the thing is, kids will react so differently to adults.

So adults, we tend to sit in grief.

So we have a sustained period of it.

But children do what we call puddles of grief.

So they jump into a puddle and they're in grief, but then they immediately jump back out of it.

So you might tell them, you know, granddad has died and they might reply saying, OK, can I go back and play now?

And you're thinking, gosh, do they even react?

But actually, that's what children do.

They don't process immediately.

They'll let you know when they're ready to jump back into that puddle.

Yeah, it is just a completely different way of grieving than we do.

And actually, it's a gorgeous way.

They go up and down in grief.