Claire Crowe

never sustained, which means you get this gorgeous windows of, oh, you're just yourself now, even though I can see you're still sad.

But you mentioned that there, Clare, there are different stages of grief depending on their age.

So when we think, you know, parents will often say to me, oh, they're only an infant.

They don't experience this.

But actually infants do experience grief because like our, you know, our little toddlers, our babies, they're body talkers and body readers.

So what they will read is, you're more tense, right?

So it's really good if you can put that into words.

So from a neuroscience point of view, if we put words in our experiences for children, that takes away the trauma, helps them make sense of the world again.

So I had a mom who said to me, gosh, my one-year-old is a devious.

She keeps on saying to me, granddad's dead.

And then that immediately makes me cry.

And I was saying to her, gosh, your kid is so clever because, you know, what the one year old was learning is I say granddad dead, mom cries.

So dead means sad.

So she's making sense of the world.

So it's a gorgeous, normal way to do it.

And like I say, and you're a scientifically sound way to do it.

So that's what they, that baby needed and that's what she needed.

what they were doing.

Of the tension.

You know, she can experience the change in mood and atmosphere in the household.