Claire Crowe

So his grandmother always had like a packet of sweets in her pocket.

So his job at the funeral was to go in, he bought the sweets and put them in her pocket so that she looked like herself.

in the coffin and that was such an important job and that kind of really helped him to feel like actually I'm doing something and now granny is granny and she has those going with her so it can be a little bit about bringing ritual into it for a child you know like I would say you know maybe a painting putting in like a drawing into the casket with the

with a person who's died that goes with them.

Or if it happens after the funeral to kind of look at, you know, can we release a balloon or a lantern into the sky?

Or maybe we can plant a tree.

Kids, when they're going into that puddle of grief, when they're ready to splash in, you want to meet them where they're at.

So you want to say, OK, now you want to talk about granny.

Now you want to do something.

How about and have kind of a list of things.

Would we light a candle?

What would you like to do today to market?

Yeah, absolutely.

Grief becomes quite active then.

It's like participating.

And it also means we're OK to talk about it.

We're OK to talk about the person who died.

We have words for this.

We have actions to go with it.

Kids always learn through play.