Claire Diaz

And sometimes it's actually really helpful to think of it that way because pleasure can also be a vehicle for how you move

out of those places as well.

Yeah, I would describe numbness as a bit of a disconnect from the mind and body.

So they're not really communicating.

And like you said before, it's because of that survival mechanism.

It's trying to protect you.

It's trying to put energy towards safety more so.

And so you're not going to be able to experience pleasure when the body is feeling like there's threat and it doesn't feel safe.

Pleasure is so deeply connected to feeling safe.

Yeah, when we are feeling numb, our body is actually dropping down, our nervous system is dropping down into a state of hypoarousal.

And it means that things shut down, it's easier to become dissociated, it's easier to feel numbness.

But I also, from a somatic lens, I want to remind you that

If you're someone that's feeling numb, that this is still a really, it's in essence, it's still a sense.

Numbness is still trying to tell your body something.

It's still a messenger and it's still a really good place for you to start working on things.

Yeah, I think I want to start by saying it's really important to understand that not everyone in this life is a sexual being.

There are a lot of people that are asexual and never in their life feel the urge to seek out sexual connections with another or themselves.

However, if you are someone that is noticing your disconnect to pleasure and intuitively you know that there is a drive to want it, I think that's when you need to start listening because your body is telling you that it's wanting something but there's a block and that's what might need work on.

Yeah, I think it's a bit of a fantasy to live in, to be honest.

And it's understandable.