Claire Diaz

Yeah, that's a really good question.

It's honestly more simple than you would think.

When you are more present, you are able to experience more sensation and more pleasure.

If you're not aware of the sensation that's happening to you, you're not aware of your pleasure.

It's actually, pleasure is a practice that can be learned and built upon.

And yeah, it's like once you start to actually tune into

to how much is happening and you can feel in your body, that's what makes sex more pleasurable.

Not just with yourself, but with someone else.

You know, you're able to be present with everything that's happening in your body, but also someone else's.

Totally.

And I think that that's a big misconception that you're not able to experience pleasure until you're out of this phase of this emotion.

Whether it's grief or whether it's overwhelmed stress from the cooked state of the world.

You're still able and deserving of experiencing pleasure before you're out of it because, you know, you don't know how long it will last.

Like you said, I think it's really important to recognize that pleasure is not the opposite of stress.

It's not the opposite of grief and that you're allowed to, you're very deserving of pleasure.

experiencing pleasure during that journey and you know if if it is overwhelming and you're not sure how to start think of it like you're trying to take tiny steps towards something you're not trying to change it overnight completely and experience the most pleasure you ever have that might not be possible so just do it in micro steps you know something that's achievable that you feel comfortable with and safe with um and not overdoing it all at once i love that so much

Look, I think a partner can be incredibly helpful in your journey of connecting to pleasure, you know, especially if it comes back to that idea of the nervous system.

Having someone else there can be really beneficial to co-regulate, you know, calm your nervous system.

It can also be a great way to discover more pleasure in your body.

But in saying that, I will always suggest that you start with yourself and