Claire Wasserman
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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Well, that depends on a lot of factors that are totally out of your control. And if one of our core fears is feeling helpless, we do not want to outsource our life in that way. I think a really nice way to kind of chart your progress that you have full command over the amount of time that you spend in a financial freakout, as well as the amount of time that it takes you to recover.
So for example, you tend to be up in the middle of the night like me, worried about what's not in your bank account, and you toss and turn for hours. The goal right now is not to not wake up because that's going to take some time and work. The goal is to maybe not spend hours having that financial freak out, right?
Also, see if maybe you can start to notice when you are freaking out about money or perhaps you made a kind of poor financial decision. Just don't add judgment to it. That's something a lot of us do and we're not even aware of. We might have a certain thought or feeling about our experience in life, inject a narrative into it that just makes it worse.
So you invested some crypto and there was a dip and you're disappointed that you lost money. You're really nervous. that you're gonna have to now tell your partner that you lost the money. And now all of a sudden you catch yourself going, you're so bad with money. That's adding that extra narrative, that judgment that is only going to compound your broke baggage even further.
So it's really critical for you to strip away any of that narrative, any of that shame that you might be feeling. Another pro tip here is anytime that you were making a statement about yourself or actually about the world. So for example, I am bad at money, or money is really hard for me to make, or you have to sacrifice your values to become rich, right?
These declarative statements about, well, your money story. I would love for you to inject the word feel. I feel because that is a more accurate portrayal of what's going on, which is this is your opinion. This is your money story.
This is your opinion about the world and money that, by the way, might not be mine or might not be hers, which means it's not the absolute truth, which means we can create a new reality. We can make change. So, for example, I'm bad with money becomes I feel like I'm bad with money.
Or you have to sacrifice your values to become rich becomes, I feel like you have to sacrifice your values to become rich. Another reason that little sort of word shift is helpful, not only is it more accurate to what actually is going on, but it creates a little bit of distance between you and the thought and the feeling. And when we have distance, we get perspective.
And that is the whole goal here. Again, going from that state of contraction, fight or flight, freak out, to options. We can see more clearly. We can find opportunities. We can be creative. We can be ourselves. Now, for those of you who, quote, know better but struggle to do better.
So these are the people who are like, I know everything I'm supposed to do, but yet somehow I cannot make myself do it. I'm here to tell you that you are wired to stay stuck because what's familiar feels safe. even if it doesn't feel good. Plus, the more we think or do a certain thing, the more solidified it becomes in our brains. It's harder to make change.
Literally, there are grooves in our brains that have been created as a sort of shortcut way through life to operate more optimally, but that doesn't mean we feel good. And so this requires us to be consistent with making small, habitual changes. This is neuroplasticity. Highly encourage you to Google more about neuroplasticity. It's just a fancy way of saying it's possible. Rewire your brain.
Yes, you can rewire your brain to release money stress. So as you reflect on today's practices, it's just so important to ask yourself, how can I implement them sustainably? How can this go from being a one-time thing that I am watching or listening to? I journaled on a Sunday. How can we journal again next Sunday and again and again? You are rewiring your brain to release that money stress.
What a massive undertaking. I hope you are so proud of yourself. I hope that you've stuck with me throughout the kind of woo-woo of it all. Again, it's backed up with science.
my certificate in financial psychology now for those of you who are going well i have broke baggage because i am broke all right this is for you as much as you need to fill the emotional bank you've also got to fill the bank bank okay so what is in your bank bank it depends on basically two things how you spend your money so that's money out and what you earn which is money in.
So if we want to make a change with the number in our bank account, we have to really look at how we're spending and how we're earning. For those of you who want to earn better, I encourage you to check out my salary negotiation video, which is a five-hour course with a 200-page workbook complete with scripts. And I have a little goodie for you, which is the code MONEYREHAB.
If you use it to buy the course, you will get $50 off. All the links are in the show notes. For today, we're not going to talk about how to make more money. We're going to focus on spending or more specifically how to spend happier because I'm not a huge fan of budgets. They feel really limiting, constricting, and I'm all about let's get expansive. Let's feel good.
So how do we feel good with our spending? There's a whole theory out there that awesome people like Ramit Sethi talk about, which is spending big on the things that you love so that you can cut down on everything else. And there's been research that shows that there are five areas of spending that has an effect on you well beyond immediate gratification. So here are the five categories.
And I'd love for you to now review afterwards. Am I spending money in these areas? If not, do I want to? Does it resonate? Number one, buying experiences. Number two, making something a treat. Number three, buying time. Number four, consuming it later. And number five, investing in others.
Everything that you spend your money on, every time that you hand over your credit card or cash, it is an extension of who you are and the values you have. You might have heard of that expression, you can vote with your dollars. It doesn't have to be political. You are investing in a product or in a person when you give them money.
I want you to think intentionally, is this aligned with how I want to live? If that's all feeling very intense to you, and when I bring up values, you start to be overwhelmed. This is a simple fill in the blank exercise. Every day, I want to feel these three feelings. You can't come up with three? No worries. At least one. I just don't want you to go crazy here, right?
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