Clare Stephens

Are your children doing those things?

Failure to move.

Oh, definitely, that one.

But at the same time, I think that the general theory of this is correct in every single context.

I think it is absolutely genius for a few reasons.

One is that a basic...

principle of human relationships is reciprocity.

It just has to be that you do something for somebody else and they do something for you.

Obviously, that becomes a little bit more complicated with a child, say, when a newborn, they can't give you much.

But the kind of social contract for those relationships is over decades and a lifetime.

The idea that a normal, well-adapted human will ultimately do something for you if you've done something for them.

I think we see it in our lives with the people who are the biggest people pleasers.

And I include myself in this to some degree.

I'm quite lazy and I think that stops me from doing too much for other people.

But sometimes I do get into the martyr complex and you see how it

impacts how people treat you.

They then have an expectation of what you will do for them, no questions asked.

And it's such a dynamic though, that there are certain relationships in your life where you have this dynamic.

And it almost becomes, even if you're the same age, it becomes almost like a parent-child dynamic.

And it's quite worrying.